View Full Version : Here’s how to make an invisibility cloak
Intelligent_Design
05-29-2006, 06:35 AM
Could 'invisibility cloaks' soon become reality? (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/12961080/?GT1=8199)
BeauButabi
05-29-2006, 09:36 AM
I've already invented an invisibility cloak, but I can find it.
Sgt. Awesome
05-29-2006, 10:14 AM
There's a much better article over at how stuff works. (http://science.howstuffworks.com/invisibility-cloak.htm)
It's pretty cool.
Bill_the_Pony
05-29-2006, 11:24 AM
Why would I want to wear an invisible cloak?! :romy:
Everybody would be able to see my see my personal business! :(
:eek:
:rolleyes: hmmm.....
Space Tycoon
05-29-2006, 03:16 PM
As far as certain women are concerned, I'm already invisible.... :(
Sorry, I had a bad weekend. Started out promising, with an enchanting single lady, then... it all fell apart.
That's it, I'm going to go live in a Bhuddist monastery.
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sickness
05-29-2006, 03:50 PM
What went wrong, Space? Did you whip it out too soon?
I mean his Cinescape membership card, you perverts!
Space Tycoon
05-29-2006, 03:57 PM
We were getting along swimmingly, watching each other over dinner. We had so much in common. She thought I was handsome, funny, intelligent. I thought I was doing just fine.
Then I brought up the Shadow Government, aliens, and military UFO's; and suddenly she had this odd look come over her. It was around this time that she informed me she had had a wonderful evening, and we must do this again some time.
Then the day after I get the parting e-mail: "It's not you, honest..." yada yada yada.
When will I ever learn. Save that information for the fourth date!
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Lavoruis
05-29-2006, 07:10 PM
Yes Mulder.... youre, dating life is rather empty of late:D :lol:
sickness
05-29-2006, 11:15 PM
Ahhh... yes. The classic "it's not you, it's me." When translated from Woman to English, this becomes "it's not me, it's you." Why can't people just be honest?
Bill_the_Pony
05-30-2006, 02:41 AM
Instead of talking about UFO's and conspiracies, (first date no-no) talk about something more engaging and stimulating, like invisibility cloaks. Guaranteed F.O.F.D. and repeated returns. :)
Asonokirk V 2.0
05-30-2006, 03:00 AM
Ahhh... yes. The classic "it's not you, it's me." When translated from Woman to English, this becomes "it's not me, it's you." Why can't people just be honest?
No, it is about her. She finds continuing to be in your presence to be, well let's call it "unpleasant." :)
Trazalca
05-30-2006, 05:10 AM
I find it to be a two-edged sword. (Then again, what's the point in
having a one-edged sword? Anyway...)
On the one hand, you should've kept your geekiness at a very low
noticeable level for as long as possible. Of course, knowing your
rep here on the boards, that's just about damm near impossible.
Regardless, quietly and subtlely reveal your geek powers little by little
per date. Let her get used to it, rather than let her assume that you're
a Star Trek freak that employs original episodes as a necessity in foreplay.
On the other hand, you want to be legit, and have her like you for who you
are, rather than what she may think you are. As great and as beautiful
as she may have been, in the long run, it's better that it break off
as it did, rather than it come out later, which would have made for
an even greater heartache. Whether you realize it or not, it was a small
blessing in that respect. Count the small blessings dude.
And something else that just came to mind. What are the chances
of you hooking up with a ballerina if you're at a NASA convention?
My point is, if she doesn't share in your world in some way, what are the
chances of meeting someone that legitimately will like you for who you are?
You're better off meeting someone at a convention you're interested in,
rather than one outside your sphere of interests. The ideal being finding
someone that regards your passions as NOT being freaky, but fascinating.
And that someone IS out there. Patience my good man. Patience.
It will happen. It can be a tough road. Just don't make it tougher than
it already is by brooding on it too much.
Peace out.
Traz
Space Tycoon
05-30-2006, 07:54 PM
Thanks for all the feedback guys (I notice the women kept silent. Funny how they all stick together...).
I'm going to call her tommorrow night, maybe talk some sense into that pretty head of hers. When I put on the charm I can be rather persuasive.
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Bill_the_Pony
05-30-2006, 08:26 PM
Remember, DON'T talk about Area 51 until you've locked the front door and hidden the key! :)
Thanks for all the feedback guys (I notice the women kept silent. Funny how they all stick together...).
I'm going to call her tommorrow night, maybe talk some sesne into that pretty head of hers. When I put on the charm I can be rather persuasive.
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I'm sorry. I'm not the type of girl that would've gone running at the prospect of conspiracy theories on the first date. Hell, if it would've been me, we'd probably still be on that first date. You need to find a weird chick. Try hanging out in used bookstores or costume shops in July.
Or buy a BMW...
http://i39.photobucket.com/albums/e164/kahlancypher/ATT2.jpg
Jakester
05-31-2006, 06:47 AM
Traz...a one-edged sword is a katana. I think they're pretty useful.
Queen Mae
05-31-2006, 07:22 AM
Ahhh... yes. The classic "it's not you, it's me." When translated from Woman to English, this becomes "it's not me, it's you." Why can't people just be honest?
Men say this too. It's a classic breakup line that I find incredibly annoying - though I've never used it or had it used on me.
I don't see the point in lying when you break up with someone. If it's not working out it's not working out. It doesn't necessarily mean that there's something "wrong" with either one of you - it just means that you aren't compatible.
If she's the kind of person who's going to feed you bullshit lies then you don't want to be with her. You deserve someone who's going to be honest with you.
sickness
05-31-2006, 07:44 AM
But, when guys say it, it means something very much more straight forward: we don't want to have sex with you.
Trazalca
05-31-2006, 08:05 AM
Traz...a one-edged sword is a katana. I think they're pretty useful.
Ah yes. I stand corrected. And very true on its usefulness,
as any Akira Kurosawa film can attest. :smirk:
Jakester
05-31-2006, 09:46 AM
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Queen Mae
05-31-2006, 10:51 AM
But, when guys say it, it means something very much more straight forward: we don't want to have sex with you.
Oh see, I just say "I don't want to have sex with you."
sickness
05-31-2006, 11:11 AM
But what we really mean is we don't want to have sex with you because we think you're ugly. :lol:
Space Tycoon
05-31-2006, 06:52 PM
Remember, DON'T talk about Area 51 until you've locked the front door and hidden the key! :)
I think we already covered Area 51. Anyway that's a non-issue these days. All the good hardware has been moved to other locations. In fact I wouldn't be surprised if this invisibility cloak is a result of UFO back-engineering(Staying on topic!).
The PTB's have learned, man. They are masters at the art of misdirection.
The place that has me concerned these days is Dulce New Mexico, allegedly the site of unspeakable experiments.
I'm DEFINITELY holding off on that topic for awhile.
Anyway I called her number twice, left a message. I was worried that she had her number changed after our encounter. I've had that happen before with women, sometimes even after one date!
That is not a hopeful sign.
But for the time being there's still hope that she will return my call and choose to take a walk on the weird side.
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Bill_the_Pony
05-31-2006, 07:36 PM
Maybe it was the talking about unspeakable experiments over dinner. :eek:
I'D be willing to talk about unspeakable experiments. Over Dinner. :o
Intelligent_Design
05-31-2006, 08:30 PM
Tycoon the next time I go north of the border We'll hang and a guarantee you'll get laid by the hottest chick in the Great White North.:)
Trazalca
06-01-2006, 03:54 AM
Anyway I called her number twice, left a message. I was worried that she had her number changed after our encounter. I've had that happen before with women, sometimes even after one date!
That is not a hopeful sign.
But for the time being there's still hope that she will return my call and choose to take a walk on the weird side.
Wow. You just reminded me of that scene from that movie Swingers when Mike calls and leaves a half a dozen messages on a girl's answering machine...
From the script:
Mike collapses into his futon and lights a smoke.
Beat.
He pulls out the COCKTAIL NAPKIN. He stares at the number.
He looks at the clock. 2:20 AM.
He looks at the napkin.
He thinks better of it, and puts the napkin away.
Beat.
He takes out the napkin and picks up the phone.
He dials.
It rings twice, then...
NIKKI
(recorded)
Hi. This is Nikki. Leave a message.
(beep)
MIKE
Hi, Nikki. This is Mike. I met you
tonight at the Dresden. I, uh, just
called to say I, uh, I'm really glad we
met and you should give me a call. So
call me tomorrow, or , like, in two days,
whatever. My number is 213-555-4679...
(beep)
Mike hangs up.
Beat.
He dials again.
NIKKI
(recorded)
Hi. This is Nikki. Leave a message.
(beep)
MIKE
Hi, Nikki. This is Mike, again. I just
called because it sounded like your
machine might've cut me off before I gave
you my number, and also to say sorry for
calling so late, but you were still there
when I left the Dresden, so I knew I'd
get your machine. Anyway, my number
is...
(beep)
Mike calls back right away.
NIKKI
(recorded)
Hi. This is Nikki. Leave a message.
(beep)
MIKE
213-555-4679. That's all. I just wanted
to leave my number. I don't want you to
think I'm weird, or desperate or
something...
(he regrets saying it
immediately)
... I mean, you know, we should just
hang out. That's it. No expectations.
Just, you know, hang out. Bye.
(beep)
He hangs up.
Beat.
He dials.
NIKKI
(recorded)
Hi. This is Nikki. Leaves a message.
(beep)
MIKE
I just got out of a six-year
relationship. Okay? That should help to
explain why I'm acting so weird. It's
not you. It's me. I just wanted to say
that. Sorry.
(pause)
This is Mike.
(beep)
He dials again. There's no turning back.
NIKKI
(recorded)
Hi. This is Nikki. Leave a message.
(beep)
MIKE
Hi, Nikki. This is Mike again. Could you
just call me when you get in? I'll be up
for awhile, and I'd just rather talk to
you in person instead of trying to
squeeze it all...
(beep)
He dials yet again.
NIKKI
(recorded)
Hi. This is Nikki. Leave a message.
(beep)
MIKE
Hi, Nikki. Mike. I don't think this is
working out. I think you're great, but
maybe we should just take some time off
from each other. It's not you, really.
It's me. It's only been six months...
NIKKI
(Live, in person. she picks
up the line)
Mike?
MIKE
Nikki! Great! Did you just walk in, or
were you listening all along?
NIKKI
(calmly)
Don't call me ever again.
MIKE
Wow, I guess you were home... (click)
:smirk:
Space Tycoon
06-01-2006, 05:07 AM
ID: Cool! Show up during Caribana, it's like Carnivale in Canada.
Traz: That could be a scene from my very life itself!
Well I got an e-mail from her last night, that's a start anyway.
Hope is kindled.
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Jakester
06-01-2006, 05:37 AM
Space, seriously, don't start the creepy weird shit until you get some trim, okay? I mean, look, give her a pearl necklace (not buy, GIVE) and then say, "You know, this kind of reminds me of the unspeakable experiments they conduct in Dulce, NM." Or maybe, "Tunneling your naughty bits reminds me of the secret tunnels they have under New York and other major cities around the world."
CSM, I think we found our premise for the sitcom. A conspiracy theorist tries to get laid.
Trazalca
06-01-2006, 05:52 AM
CSM, I think we found our premise for the sitcom. A conspiracy theorist tries to get laid.
Kinda like an Ally McBeal for geeks?
I think we already covered Area 51. Anyway that's a non-issue these days. All the good hardware has been moved to other locations. In fact I wouldn't be surprised if this invisibility cloak is a result of UFO back-engineering(Staying on topic!).
The PTB's have learned, man. They are masters at the art of misdirection.
The place that has me concerned these days is Dulce New Mexico, allegedly the site of unspeakable experiments.
I'm DEFINITELY holding off on that topic for awhile.
Anyway I called her number twice, left a message. I was worried that she had her number changed after our encounter. I've had that happen before with women, sometimes even after one date!
That is not a hopeful sign.
But for the time being there's still hope that she will return my call and choose to take a walk on the weird side.
.
Mmmm, conspiracy theories and spells DEFINITELY correctly...
Yup- that does it for me.:eyebrow:
Intelligent_Design
06-01-2006, 07:00 AM
Tycoon never ever go for women that take vested interest in Conspiracies. Paranoid Girlfriends WILL make your life hell.
Tycoon never ever go for women that take vested interest in Conspiracies. Paranoid Girlfriends WILL make your life hell.
Who said I was paranoid? Maybe I just think paranoid men are sexy, without being paranoid myself?
Right. You didn't buy that for a second, did you? So maybe I'm a little paranoid...
KingVoyeur
06-01-2006, 07:18 AM
Who said I was paranoid? Maybe I just think paranoid men are sexy, without being paranoid myself?
Wouldn't them being paranoid make you paranoid that they're being paranoid about you're being paranoid? :jump2:
sickness
06-01-2006, 08:05 AM
I just wanted to say page 3 of this thread is classic and should be archived as an example of the great moments the internet can produce.
Trazalca
06-01-2006, 08:30 AM
But I'm still on page one! ????
Bill_the_Pony
06-01-2006, 11:38 AM
Space, seriously, don't start the creepy weird shit until you get some trim, okay? I mean, look, give her a pearl necklace (not buy, GIVE) and then say, "You know, this kind of reminds me of the unspeakable experiments they conduct in Dulce, NM." Or maybe, "Tunneling your naughty bits reminds me of the secret tunnels they have under New York and other major cities around the world."
:eek:
Whatever you do (re: Pearl Necklace), DON'T give her a Dirty Sanchez. :(
Or a Dutch Oven. :romy:
And I was just KIDDING about dinner! :angry You DON'T have to IGNORE me! :angry
How about some boiled rabbit? :D
BTW.....paranoid guys can play up the "intense, tortured guy" thing. :cool:
Paranoid women...oh, they're just koo-koo. :rolleyes:
Jakester
06-01-2006, 11:55 AM
Bill, those things kind of gross me out, too.
Bill_the_Pony
06-01-2006, 02:23 PM
:hugs:
Space Tycoon
06-01-2006, 03:49 PM
Well she's still answering e-mails so that's a hopeful sign.
Who said I was paranoid? Maybe I just think paranoid men are sexy, without being paranoid myself?
That's awesome Kah! Too bad you're all, like married and stuff. :ohwell:
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Jakester
06-01-2006, 03:55 PM
That doesn't stop me. Kahlan may say "Not in this lifetime," but I know she doesn't mean it. She wants me -- it's just that there's a conspiracy to make me think otherwise.
Space Tycoon
06-01-2006, 04:00 PM
Maybe she believes in multiple lifetimes. Re-incarnation. Saving you for later!
:D
Space Tycoon
06-01-2006, 09:51 PM
Well I talked to her tonight and she ain't havin' it.
Apparently, it still isn't me. It's her. :rolleyes:
She's still in love with her ex-fiance, who was a "compulsive partyer" and "bad boy."
So I decided to go to the neighbourhood pub and drown myself in Smithwick's.
Oh, sure, my love life is still dead, but at least I'll have no trouble emptying my bowels tommorrow... if history is any guide.
I have decided, over my 33 years of life, that women really and truly prefer a strong-willed jerk over a well-meaning nice-guy. I have not decided whether that means that women are inferior to men, or not. I would like to think it doesn't, but I am not certain.
It's just the way of the world, I guess. Maybe there is a biological, evolutionary reason for this. Whatever. I have decided that I am off the dating scene for a awhile.
This new development has three implications:
1) I will inaugurate a "Babes Thread" on this board very soon, to make up for my lack of poonage;
2) Casual Sex. I might as well enjoy what is out there. Everyone else is doing it, why not me? Expect regular reports...
2) MOST IMPORTANT! I will immerse myself ever further into the world of the surreal, paranormal, supernatural, conspiratorial, etc...;
Because, honestly, what else do I have going for me at this point?
What, am I waiting to win an Oscar over here?!
Stay tuned.
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sickness
06-01-2006, 10:13 PM
Space, nice guys always finish last. I've learned this the hard way. When I stopped being a nice guy and just generally stopped caring about anything (I'm drifting from old friends and really couldn't care less... they're going to do what they want to do), women started lining up. Now I'm talking to 3 or more women at a time. I took most of April off but other than that, it's been a pretty steady stream for the last 3 months. I've just had difficulty converting but it's a new leaf turned over for me that I'm getting used to.
Space Tycoon
06-01-2006, 10:26 PM
Sounds good to me. Make the b-----s work for it. :cool:
But we'll see how that works out in the real world. Knowing me, the first time some hot babe shows some real interest in me I'll be all, "Alan Alda," sensitive and crap. :smirks:
I have no will power.
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Space Tycoon
06-01-2006, 10:30 PM
Anyway, it's 2:30 a.m. in Soviet Canuckistan, Ontario Oblast. I'm done.
Vorkers must have sleep to serve Glorious Socialist Republic!!
http://www.ce-review.org/00/8/images/posters8_socreal.jpg
:D
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Trazalca
06-02-2006, 05:09 AM
She's still in love with her ex-fiance, who was a "compulsive partyer" and "bad boy."
Translation- he's the best I've ever had in the sack, and can't imagine
accepting anything less in my life now.
The best thing to do is forget about her. Sometimes dating others remind
you of what you lost and missed the best from in a previous relationship.
And apparently, dating you was a sharp contrast to what she had.
He got her hooks into her so deep, she don't know what to do about them,
and those girls are best to stay the hell away from. Not even on a friendship
level. I know. I dated one that would not shut up about her last boyfriend.
It was like she was hypnotized or something. And she'll be like that
for every dude she ever dates from here on till she finds herself begging
him to come back in her life. She's on a living tragedy of no return,
with "heartache guaranteed if you date me" stamped on her forehead.
So go ahead. Enjoy your Smithwicks. Ogle over the pics.
Become the Mulder you always dreamed of being.
But you'd better watch out. When you least expect it,
that's when love hits ya harder than a Bobby Bonilla baseball bat.
Of course now that you're reading this, you'll be expecting it.
Which means, it won't happen. So in effect, you're screwed.
Oh well.... :ohwell:
Um...did you hear about the alien head in the bird X-ray? :o
http://us.news3.yimg.com/us.i2.yimg.com/p/ap/20060601/capt.nyet70506012252.duck_x_ray_nyet705.jpg
Intelligent_Design
06-02-2006, 06:54 AM
Dude don't get down, you rarely if ever stand a chance against a determined Ex-boyfriend and the odds get worse over time. He has home court advantage.
The thing about women is they are all looking for one or two things in a guy. Those things differ among all women, some want a drunkin-partyer, some want a determined-businessman, some want a drunkin-abuser...... The task(if you want to accept it) is to become what she wants you to be. You just need to find a women that wants a paranoid-intellectual. :D
Well she's still answering e-mails so that's a hopeful sign.
That's awesome Kah! Too bad you're all, like married and stuff. :ohwell:
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Not married yet. I was engaged to the last one for 2 1/2 years out of the 4 we were together. I've been engaged to this one for 6 months out of the 4 1/2 years so far. I was planning our wedding, but then I started getting angry and bored. I think I'm allergic to permanent commitment. Regular old commitment I can do- but marriage- I don't know.
Here's a strange one for you- I think I might be every man's "soulmate." More details if I feel like sharing.
Jakester
06-02-2006, 08:25 AM
Baby, I just want you for a fuckbuddy.
Baby, I just want you for a fuckbuddy.
Well, there's that, too. I already have an old fuckbuddy calling me at all hours, trying to get a piece of ass while he's in town. Like I am going to throw away the last 4 1/2 years of my life for a couple weeks of great sex. Right.
omicron
06-02-2006, 08:39 AM
Kah, I just want to say that besides being one of the hottest MILFs around, you having a quote from RedGreen in your sig makes me want you even more. :D
Omi
sickness
06-02-2006, 08:42 AM
Sounds good to me. Make the b-----s work for it. :cool:
But we'll see how that works out in the real world. Knowing me, the first time some hot babe shows some real interest in me I'll be all, "Alan Alda," sensitive and crap. :smirks:
I have no will power.
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Dude, this new girl I'm talking to (and the term girl almost actually applies... she hasn't told me her age yet but her immaturity shows.... she can't be more than 22 or 23) is batshit over me and we haven't even met (a mutual friend is trying to hook us up and so we have been talking on the phone for a couple or three days... she's apparently done a good job of selling me to this chick). She said she was going to call yesterday afternoon but didn't. I didn't make any effort to get ahold of her. I'm going to call her this afternoon, though, and I bet I could line something up for tonight.
My point is, no matter how into the woman you are, you have to pretend like you don't need them and that you've got other things to do with your time... even other things you'd rather do. I was recently given some sage advice by a really cool woman (whose maturity and insight exceeds her years -- thanks, Kah!) that goes something like this:
Women love reverse psychology. Learn to be a jerk. Learn to be distant. Learn to show them that you have better things to do and places to be. Do that and you won't be able to see the end of the line to make the little space tycoon salute.
I'm still learning but early results say it works like magic.
Kah, I just want to say that besides being one of the hottest MILFs around, you having a quote from RedGreen in your sig makes me want you even more. :D
Omi
Of course it does. Lol. :D
neglet
06-02-2006, 09:35 AM
Women love reverse psychology. Learn to be a jerk. Learn to be distant. Learn to show them that you have better things to do and places to be. Do that and you won't be able to see the end of the line to make the little space tycoon salute.
I'm still learning but early results say it works like magic.
I'm not sure you have to be a "jerk" to attract the chicks; to me, "jerk" means you cheat, lie, and otherwise disrespect the relationship. However, there is something to the idea of not being so "nice" that you come off as desperate/dependent. My first serious relationship ended because my bf was becoming so obsequious he was driving me crazy--that is, he was tiptoeing around my emotions/opinions so much he seemed spineless. It was like he couldn't say or do anything without worrying about what I thought about it. Now, do I like to have my opinions and wishes respected? Sure. Do I want my partner to "respect" them so much he doesn't have any of his own? No way.
Women like men to act like grownups, not children. So if you think "nice guy" means giving in to her every wish, tiptoeing around her emotions like you think she's a timebomb, and not standing up for yourself when it counts, then yeah, I'd say women don't go for "nice guys."
But to me, "nice guy" just means someone who is his own individual and yet respectful of his partner. (The occasional romantic gesture is nice, but it doesn't have to be extravagant, just thoughtful.) To have that kind of guy value you means much more than if some desperate dweeb latches on to you--it means you're being valued for yourself, not just because the dude is grateful to have anything with breasts show interest in him.
Just my two cents--but as I think I've been married longer than almost anyone on this board (to the same person, even!), maybe it counts for a little.
Dude, this new girl I'm talking to (and the term girl almost actually applies... she hasn't told me her age yet but her immaturity shows.... she can't be more than 22 or 23) is batshit over me and we haven't even met (a mutual friend is trying to hook us up and so we have been talking on the phone for a couple or three days... she's apparently done a good job of selling me to this chick). She said she was going to call yesterday afternoon but didn't. I didn't make any effort to get ahold of her. I'm going to call her this afternoon, though, and I bet I could line something up for tonight.
My point is, no matter how into the woman you are, you have to pretend like you don't need them and that you've got other things to do with your time... even other things you'd rather do. I was recently given some sage advice by a really cool woman (whose maturity and insight exceeds her years -- thanks, Kah!) that goes something like this:
Women love reverse psychology. Learn to be a jerk. Learn to be distant. Learn to show them that you have better things to do and places to be. Do that and you won't be able to see the end of the line to make the little space tycoon salute.
I'm still learning but early results say it works like magic.
You're welcome, but I didn't actually say to be a jerk. I said to make them think you are not interested, and they will work to make you interested. Hell, there are some women that you can tell you are gay, and they will try to convince you that they can change your mind. We like the challenge as much as men do. What we don't like, is having to deal with men who date many women at one time, or compulsively lie. Most of what Neg says, ditto that. We want you to be strong and independent, and have interests of your own. Oh, and the L word is a no-no for at least 6 months, or we won't believe you mean it.
Trazalca
06-02-2006, 09:49 AM
But to me, "nice guy" just means someone who is his own individual and yet respectful of his partner.
I'm curious to know -how many girls in the dating arena share that definition of yours? Not that I don't agree with that definition - I do! A man that is his own individual and respectful of his partner is worth something. I just wonder if most girls really care to see that worth when it comes down to dating? Sure a guy can be nice for several reasons. But lets be honest here- was it "being nice to you" the very quality that drew you to your husband when you first dated him, or better yet, was it what you were looking for when you met him?
Just askin'. That's all.
sickness
06-02-2006, 09:50 AM
Okay. So jerk was a poor word to choose but the essence of what I was saying was there. And you and Negs expanded on that.
Jakester
06-02-2006, 10:07 AM
Kahlan, baby, you're supposed to play along. Sheesh!
neglet
06-02-2006, 10:27 AM
Sure a guy can be nice for several reasons. But lets be honest here- was it "being nice to you" the very quality that drew you to your husband when you first dated him, or better yet, was it what you were looking for when you met him?
Just askin'. That's all.
Well, I do know that when I started dating my husband, about five months after I broke up with the other guy, I definitely was looking for someone who wouldn't let me push him around. (I'm the type of gal who needs someone to call her on her shit once in a while, in case you couldn't tell. :)) In him I saw someone who I knew was smart and responsible (he was working his way through college), and had some similar interests to mine. As we dated for a while, I learned that while he always treated me with respect, he definitely wouldn't let me push him around. I also discovered we had similar values and goals regarding the future. In other words, I found an equal--and because I definitely couldn't be with a man I couldn't respect, I think that's a key to the success of our long-term relationship.
Now, keeping a marriage going over 20 years, even through rough patches, that's a subject for a different topic all together.
fastcar
06-02-2006, 12:00 PM
I remember this moment like it was yesterday. I was working at Cedar Point, one of the biggest bedlam spots in terms of morality this side of the Mississip... It makes Sodom and Gomorra look like Grover's Corners.
Anyway, I was talking with a female coworker about how crazy it was with all the hooking up that happens in the span of 3 months. I tell her, "It would be nice to just find a girl who would like to get a pizza to go, sit on the beach under the stars, and just bullshit. You know instead of the usual, go to the bar on quarter draft night and hopefully find a warm body by last call."
Her response to me.
"You're going to make a great husband."
I was 21.
Nobody wants to date husband material. They want the bad boy until they're ready to settle down, then they go find the husband. Well guess what, maybe we won't still be around when you get your emotional shit together.
neglet
06-02-2006, 12:05 PM
Nobody wants to date husband material. They want the bad boy until they're ready to settle down, then they go find the husband. Well guess what, maybe we won't still be around when you get your emotional shit together.
I dunno, I got married at 21 so I was dating husband material pretty young. (Are you saying I'm nobody?:() But if you're only looking to date party girls instead of the serious ones, that might explain why you have bad luck.:dunno:
Trazalca
06-02-2006, 12:18 PM
Well guess what, maybe we won't still be around when you get your emotional shit together.
Amen brother! :D
Space Tycoon
06-02-2006, 12:27 PM
Once again, awesome feedback.
But I think I'm going to give women a few months of "benign neglect," to coin a phrase. My mother says that when you are not looking for someone, that is when they usually come along.
I think what it all boils down to is changing my personality altogether. No more Mr. Nice Guy, in general. Whether it's in business, work, dealings with peers, dealings with the government. I have been too nice for too long. From now on things are going to change. I'm going to have to start being a hardcase, even at times an *******.
This will be difficult for me. Even by Canadian standards, I'm pretty laid back.
I'm going to get in people's faces. Start fights. Hold up a convenience store, perhaps? Oh, wait, I know-- I'll hijack an airliner!
Well, no. That's going too far.
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Space Tycoon
06-02-2006, 12:31 PM
Nobody wants to date husband material. They want the bad boy until they're ready to settle down, then they go find the husband.
Ah yes, the "Everybody Loves Raymond" scenario. Love that show.
Raymond's problem is he never learned to put his woman in her place, which is what most women crave. You've got to do that from the get-go, or they'll walk all over you till the day you die.
Yup. It's true.
:ohwell:
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Jakester
06-02-2006, 12:52 PM
Maybe you should find a hot chick whose boyfriend is being an ass to her and pick a fight with him. Kick his ass and then ignore the girl for a day or so. Then hook up. Have her do AtM. When you're done, kick her out.
Intelligent_Design
06-02-2006, 01:03 PM
Once again, awesome feedback.
But I think I'm going to give women a few months of "benign neglect," to coin a phrase. My mother says that when you are not looking for someone, that is when they usually come along.
I think what it all boils down to is changing my personality altogether. No more Mr. Nice Guy, in general. Whether it's in business, work, dealings with peers, dealings with the government. I have been too nice for too long. From now on things are going to change. I'm going to have to start being a hardcase, even at times an *******.
This will be difficult for me. Even by Canadian standards, I'm pretty laid back.
I'm going to get in people's faces. Start fights. Hold up a convenience store, perhaps? Oh, wait, I know-- I'll hijack an airliner!
Well, no. That's going too far.
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Dude stay laidback in fact be soooo laidback you don't care if some chick blows you off. Just move on to the next one, she maybe alot cooler.
Intelligent_Design
06-21-2006, 10:51 PM
Once again, awesome feedback.
I'm going to get in people's faces. Start fights. Hold up a convenience store, perhaps? Oh, wait, I know-- I'll hijack an airliner!
Well, no. That's going too far.
.
Well I wonder how the new Tycoon Extreme is doing since he hasn't replied in a while he may be on lockdown. Thats ok. It rises your street cred. And chicks dig that.:lol:
Space Tycoon
06-22-2006, 03:15 AM
Nah. Same old crapola. :ohwell:
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fastcar
06-22-2006, 04:49 AM
I dunno, I got married at 21 so I was dating husband material pretty young. (Are you saying I'm nobody?:() But if you're only looking to date party girls instead of the serious ones, that might explain why you have bad luck.:dunno:
Who? Me or Space? I've been married for 2 years. This was 10 years ago. I wasn't looking to date party girls, but in that environment there wasn't much of a selection past party girl. It was like party girl, bipolar girl who watches Hackers everyday before work, or sailor moon fan. (Not that there's anything wrong with that.)
neglet
06-22-2006, 05:56 AM
I meant the more general "you" of the male species. You're exactly right about the environment: if you're hoping to find a meaningful relationship, but only meet girls by going to bars, your odds of success aren't as good as if you meet women through some other means (whether that's a favorite hobby, church, or match.com).
I meant the more general "you" of the male species. You're exactly right about the environment: if you're hoping to find a meaningful relationship, but only meet girls by going to bars, your odds of success aren't as good as if you meet women through some other means (whether that's a favorite hobby, church, or match.com).
I've been trying to tell all my late-twenty-something and early-thirty-something friends the same thing. They all want a girlfriend, but they don't look beyond the bar. They know they won't find a winner there, but they seem content to date the losers. Until she starts screwing his best friend, brother, whoever walks in the bar next..
I've tried to tell them, you will not meet women unless you try. You have to make an effort to be in a place where a woman will find you. Your garage behind your house, or at work in the quarry are not the ways you will get a woman. If you have an interest that has a meeting place outside the home- go. Maybe it's weighlifting (I know you know I am talking about you), tennis, swimming, skiing, reading (in the bookstore), hanging at the UFO museum or plantetarium, hiking, etc etc. If you are doing something you love, chances are you will run into someone who shares at least that one interest with you. If you start out with one interest in common and a physical attraction (which will make one of you stop to talk to the other), that's a pretty good beginning. Until date 3, when you start asking questions about religion and goals. Oh, and guys, even if a girl seems like she wants to sleep with you right away- DON'T! She will respect you far more if you wait a couple months at least. The bf made me wait forever. I was ready to rip his clothes off, or grind my teeth into little stubs, but it made everything mean a lot more. Besides, we found out that we actually liked each other without the benefit of sex. And if she's crazy, and you don't find out till date 5, at least you haven't slept with her and possibly tied yourself to her (with her spawn) or her herpes for life. Just sayin'. I know, I need to stop. You guys know what you're doing.
Negs and I are here, though. If you need us...
:hugs:
sickness
06-22-2006, 10:10 AM
Maybe it's weighlifting (I know you know I am talking about you)...
Yeah, I know you know I know you are. And looking there has been working well for me recently.
See guys- listen to sick. He knows I know what I am talking about.
Jakester
06-22-2006, 10:36 AM
Wait a couple of MONTHS?! "Mean something?!" What the hell are you talking about?
Space Tycoon
06-22-2006, 09:56 PM
I've had it. I tried being the bad boy but I'm a bad actor.
I plan to withdraw even further into the internet. I've learned women are more a source of pain than pleasure. I've learned to hate most of them.
But that's true of people in general. I hate 'em.
The truth is all that matters to me now. F--- 'em all.
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Intelligent_Design
06-22-2006, 10:42 PM
I've had it. I tried being the bad boy but I'm a bad actor.
I plan to withdraw even further into the internet. I've learned women are more a source of pain than pleasure. I've learned to hate most of them.
But that's true of people in general. I hate 'em.
The truth is all that matters to me now. F--- 'em all.
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You know, I have grown to dislike people in general. Very rarely do people want to have intelligent open-minded talks anymore. People like to make a big deal about the racial, economical, religious divides in this country. I think the Intelligence divide is the deepest I have ever seen it.
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