Most Americans Have Premarital Sex: Study

[Adam54]

http://www.startribune.com/484/story/889065.html

To which I say:

1. Duh.
2. Guess all the money we're spending on abstinence programs is going to a good cause eh?

[Rowanberry]

I feel sorry for all the children that are made from 'premartial sex'.

Then, start promoting for proper and objective sexual health education in schools; the issue doesn't go away if you try and sweep it under the carpet. It works here; kids know what sex is, and don't rush to try it just for the sake of it, and they know to use contraceptives if things go that far.

[Jakester]

Adam says: Most Americans Have Premarital Sex
...just not you.

[Metuzalem]

I've always been of the opinion that pre-marital sex is essential for a healthy relationship in the modern day. In "the olden days" both people being virgins on their wedding night was a viable proposition and while we may long for those days, I just don't think it's realistic anymore.
The way I say it is like this: If you go shopping and buy a pair of trousers, do you try them on in store? Of course you do. And how big a commitment in the terms of "the rest of your life" are those trousers? Not a big commitment.

Now.

Apply the same principle to sex. Waiting till you are married - making a LIFETIME commitment - to your partner just to find out you are sexually incompatible (because some people are) would be a killer. If you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone, you need to know that you are compatible. I'm not saying sex is the most important thing in a relationship, but there is no denying that it is important.

[Kaeos]

I feel sorry for all the children that are made from 'premartial sex'. They end up growing up without a father or in some cases a mother. If they are lucky they are put up for adoption when they are born.


:headscratch: Seems like a pretty broad generalization Eldarion. There are just as many well adjusted, successful people that grew up with single mothers out of wedlock as there are poor, uneducated delinquants fron the same ilk. There's a lot more too someone's quality of life than whether they were born in the traditional 2 parent system. IMHO :D

[DeschainGang]

I think you are all nuts. "In the olden days."? Like we are on some upward linear path to greatness. Things are bad, things are good. Things get better, things get worse. Germany went from enlightenment to Nazi domination. The only thing constant is the desire for more prettier stuff.

If you are 12 and you don't know about sex then you don't watch TV or go outside and will probably be President in2032.

Peace.

[kah]

My kid was created from premarital sex. I don't think he's suffering at all, having two parents who love him and each other. Just because our family doesn't fit the Christian mold doesn't make it a lesser family.

[Jakester]

According to some, it does, but it's still better than if it were a married gay family. Unless your last name is Bush, in which case, it's okay.

[neglet]

According to some, it does, but it's still better than if it were a married gay family. Unless your last name is Bush, in which case, it's okay.

No, no, no. Unless your name is "Cheney." Don't you read the news?:Smirk:

[kah]

I guess it's a good thing I don't care what other people think, huh?

[chemikillgod]

The way I say it is like this: If you go shopping and buy a pair of trousers, do you try them on in store? Of course you do. And how big a commitment in the terms of "the rest of your life" are those trousers? Not a big commitment.



I'm a fan of said premarital sex but I actually don't buy this argument, in fact, I've always disliked it mostly because it's not as if sex is invariable and constant in any relationship let alone a marriage. Nothing in a marriage is static and the politics of sex in the bedroom is no different. For most marriages sex is not in a bubble unaffected by changing attitutes and external and internal forces like kids, hormones, bank accounts, and a multitute of other factors. Expectations can be a bitch especially when it comes to sex, which is why some married couples, both male and female, begin to whine about not getting enough sex after marriage when they've been boinking like crazy during their premarital days.

Personally, I don't kid myself, premarital sex happens because people like sex, period.

That's my 2 cents anyway.

[Cncrman]

I have to start slowing down when I read titles. I read "Most Americans Have Premarital Sex: Study" and thought...damn, after sex people are studying? I usually get sleepy.

You know what I want so see? A study on how many people are having Postmarital Sex.

[rappites]

Why?^^^^ Just out of morbid curiosity?

[Jakester]

You are, of course, correct, Negs. I sit corrected.

[Al-Dog]

If we want Americas not to have pre-marital sex, we will need to encourage people to get married when they are about 15 or 16 like they did in the past. Otherwise they will be strapping bombs to themselves like they do in the middle east.

[kah]

OMFG- AL, I love your avatar!

[Al-Dog]

OMFG- AL, I love your avatar!
Thanks, maybe I'll stick with this one for awhile.

[TrixieB]

My kid was created from premarital sex. I don't think he's suffering at all, having two parents who love him and each other. Just because our family doesn't fit the Christian mold doesn't make it a lesser family.

I am a single parent of a 14 year old. I was never married to her father and we (her father and I) have never lived together. She is greatly loved by us both and I really don't think that she has suffered by not having us together. In fact, she is more mature and easy going and adaptable than most kids.

We have made our own kind of family and it works for us.

[UNCLEagent]

Premaritial sex was easy!

Postmarital sex is a bitch.

[kah]

Besides, there are plenty of kids getting screwed up by their unhappily married parents.

[sickness]

Besides, there are plenty of kids getting screwed up by their unhappily married parents.
Most Americans Don't Read Existing Threads: Study. (http://www.mania.com/forums/showpost.php?p=51013&postcount=580)

[Adam54]

No, not most. Just me. And this deserved it's own thread anyway.

So :p you smartass. :D

And Jake?

The times they are a changin. That's all I'll say here, for I am, if nothing else, a gentleman.

PM me if you really want to hear the juicy stuff big guy.

[kah]

And here (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/16282622/wid/11915773?GT1=8816)'s a bunch of reasons to have sex, period.

[colmatrix]

I don't have any children so my opinion may not be as educated as some here, but I have heard a lot of stories by kids whose parents were divorced or just has one parent. Most of the stories I've heard lead me to believe that not having both parents in the home is not as good for children as having both parents together. I'm not saying that raising a "out-of-wedlock" family is wrong or anything but wouldn't most people say that the ideal situation would be to have a good old-fashioned American family? Of course that is a bad blanket statement, and it really doesn't work that way. But it just seems like kids are really out of control these days and experimenting with things that I know my friends and I never did at that age. I drive a school bus, and you wouldn't believe the filth that comes out of their mouths sometimes, they have no respect for anyone. They talk about sexual stuff I haven't heard of (even though I tell them to knock it off), and I know I sound like an old man, I'm only friggin 26. Girls that age are the worst, they talk like sluts and have no shame. Sheesh. It's depressing. They all have only one parent, most of them have foster parents. Don't even get me started on them. Some are great, some not so great. Anyway, sorry for the rant.

[kah]

That might be the ideal, but the ideal family has two parents who love each other and the children and put the children's needs above their own. I'm seeing less and less of that these days. Additionally, having two people stay together simply for their kids' sake at the price of their own happiness usually doesn't end up the way they had hoped either. I'll tell ya, my friend's parents waited until the youngest was 18 to get divorced, and it didn't hurt them any less. In fact, the kids were pissed that they were living with a lie for all those years.

[Jakester]

Kah talks like a slut all the time. It makes it difficult for me to walk.

[kah]

I actually restrain myself a bit on here.





















You know you love me. :)

[Meathead]

Funny, Eldarion hasn't been in here since that post...

[Metuzalem]

:Laugh:

[Jakester]

You know you love me. :)

If by "love," you mean want you to ride me like a C&W motorized bull until you can't wank for a week, then yeah.

[kah]

Works for me. What are you doing on Thursday?

[Jakester]

Banging you, it would seem.