Yet Another Reason to Love Tim Hortons!!!

[TrixieB]

Ok... well, not specifically Tim Hortons. Any coffee, really. But it's good to have another excuse! :smirks:

[UNCLEagent]

Don't forget their fudge covered donuts.

[sickness]

Or the occasional MIA poster popping up.

WHAT IS UP, MAN?!

[UNCLEagent]

Not much. Now working, since Dec. What is up with you?

I tried Tim Hortons once last summer. I am hoping we will soon have an invasion here from Canada.

[sickness]

Same ol' same ol'. And at the same time not. In some ways I feel like I've crawled out from a comfortable world under a rock to see a much bigger, brighter, more interesting place with more reward but at the same time more risk. (What fun is reward if you don't risk not having it?) The least of which is that I recently bought a new car. First time I've ever done that.

What's got you off work? A bad economy? Injury? I hope you can go back soon.

Good to hear from you again. I was beginning to wonder if we would.

[UNCLEagent]

I'm sorry I wasn't clear. A divorce last year guided me from the path of stay at home fatherhood and back into the work force.

A much welcomed change.

Congrats on the new car! And as to risk? What good are the fruits of life without the risk to enjoy them?

[sickness]

Originally Posted by UNCLEagent

I'm sorry I wasn't clear. A divorce last year guided me from the path of stay at home fatherhood and back into the work force.

A much welcomed change.

Congrats on the new car! And as to risk? What good are the fruits of life without the risk to enjoy them?

I misread. Thought you said "not working, since Dec" rather than "now working, since Dec."

As for the risks, I stopped taking them for a while. I got into a groove (more like a rut) which I enjoyed (more like I couldn't see what out there was better) and then got a rude awakening from it about 4 months ago. Now things can never work out the way I had hoped but I'm seeing more everyday that it's better that they don't. It's been a good experience since I've developed something of a healthy ego. If you give people the impression that they can walk all over you and use you and have you around to fall back on, they will. That was my problem. I didn't realize what kind of journey I was on for the last few months until a few weeks ago so I tried to maintain the status quo. It was probably the worst thing I could have done although it was the easiest and most comfortable (imagine that swallowing your pride is easier than cutting some deep bonds). I'm in the process of cutting the last tie to the old me and the situation I was in (which I'd rather not detail since the other party won't be around Cinescape to defend herself). The new me doesn't take shit from anyone (but picks his battles wisely), doesn't play second fiddle to anyone (refer back to the woman and women in general... there were actually a couple of things that lead up to this) and isn't afraid to throw down and knock an ******* out. It's also worth noting that, since I've started developing this attitude women have been slobbering all over me.

I've also lost 35 pounds in the last 8 months (occasionally I've lost focus or stopped to regain lost strength or had things come up in my life where I had to put the weight loss on hold) and am shooting for 20 more. Once I hit that, I'm going to bulk up by 30 pounds to put on some extra muscle and then try to cut just the fat off as much as possible so I'll be 220 and RIPPED. That'll be the last time I intentionally put on weight.

Some relatively current pics of me can be found in the Pictures thread.

In the last 4 months I've also gone solo on the living front. I needed to live with roommates one more time to prove to myself that it was time to be on my own.

That's pretty much what I've been up to.

[neglet]

Sicks, does this have anything to do with the events you detailed on this old thread? I'm curious to know how the story ended.

And I love Tim Horton's Boston Creme, just to stay on topic a little bit.

[sickness]

Yeah. Same one.

Long story short and I'll try to keep it as unbiased as possible. I'm also holding back a bit because some things would only be my interpretation:

She dumped that guy a month or so later because he was a jackass. A week or two after that, I decided I was just going to move forward and keep it a friendship after we had a long "my friends have been recommending we hook up. --Oh, really? Mine, too. But I just keep telling them we're just friends but if it happens it happens." So, I start getting out and meeting women, talking to them, getting phone numbers. Being that we're just friends, I would talk about what was going on without thinking twice about it. A week or so later, she confesses that I've made her jealous. In turn, I confess I wasn't completely honest during the "if it happens it happens" discussion and that I'd gotten jealous over the last guy (which was a first). So, we decided just to see where it goes. We talked a lot that week and ended up going out Friday night with some friends of hers (this is some time in late January). She got cold feet about the whole thing, and I got miffed about it (and found out I can become an angry drunk, though not violent, very easily). She claimed that she didn't know if it was just a "we're not going to be able to hang out anymore" jealousy or something more. I wasn't so convinced. Then, the next day we had a longer talk about it and she said there was just no spark there. Then, a couple weeks later, we were hanging out and watching the Super Bowl. Put better, I was watching the Super Bowl while she was texting back and forth with some guy. Then we went over to her friend's house where she continued and was talking to her friend. Basically, we had been hanging out about 5 hours and I got about 10 minutes of her time.

So, I called her after I left and pretty much railed her for about 45 minutes about it. It got ugly. Real ugly. I was honestly the most depressed and aggravated I've ever been by far and thought about doing some stupid shit over the next two weeks. The reason this one was so different was I knew he was the one for her. Or so I thought.

So about 2 weeks passes and I pretty much wallowed in my own self-pity and a few pints of beer every other night or so when, suddenly, I had an epiphany that it really didn't matter and, if I'm her friend, I should be happy for her. So, everything's cool. I called her by the end of the week and told her this. Everything seemed cool again.

A couple weeks after that, I gave her a call just to see what's up, etc.

One month later. No call back.

Two months down the road, no call.

Another couple weeks, I sent her a text telling her to tell her mom Happy Mother's Day for me. If she didn't respond at all, this was going to be it. I really wasn't going to talk to her ever again. So, she called and we talked for a bit. It was cool. The next day, we talked again (she's trying to set me up with a friend of hers... which didn't pan out. As much as I like the idea of dating someone in their early 20's when I'm 30, it's just not realistic) and she tells me she dumped him because of some personality flaw or something.

The week before last, I sent an email half-jokingly saying "so why are you ignoring me?" She responds with "I've been busy with work and need to focus on other things in my life." Then she tells me last week she's running off to Nevada to marry the guy and that he knocked her up. In one bit of editorializing here, under no circumstances is it reasonable to dump a guy for personality issues and be marrying him 4 weeks later. Even if he knocked you up. Just retarded.

So, through the last year of our friendship I've learned that, unlike the first 4 years, she only has needed me around when she doesn't have a boyfriend. She's married. There's no reason to maintain the friendship.

And now I have to go to work.

And I want a Tim Hortons around here. Krispy Kreme can't be the only good donut in town.

[DaForce]

Sicky, I know you live here in the Bay Area, and I can tell you that Krispy Kreme is complete crap compared to Bob's Donuts on Polk St.

There's only one Bob's. It's open 24 hours, and the donuts are hands down the best in the state.

Yup, in the state.


As for the girl problems, been through sort of a similiar situation like what you went through in the past, only difference was that I was seeing her, if you know what I mean, and I think that you do. I can't say that we were dating. It was more of a friends with benefits thing. Anyway, long story short, she got knocked up and married some other guy in New York last I heard.

So I feel your pain. But one thing I've learned from dating (and which may seem sort of shallow) is if you go in with the attitude of 'what do you have to offer me?' You'll get a lot more positive responses rather than chasing your own tail trying to impress someone that really doesn't deserve your attention in the first place.



So remember, it's Bob's Donuts on Polk St. above the cross street of California St.